WORDS FROM A FATHER TO A SON ABOUT MARRIAGE

1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman
and she never asked you if you’re saving or
investing, and she keeps enjoying the
attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to
you, some could be a good mother to your
children but if you’ve found a woman like a
mother to you, your children and your family,
please don’t let her go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your
wife to the kitchen, where did you get that
from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands
where they worked every morning . . . that was
our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of
the house, don’t look at your pocket; look if
you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let
your wife be in-charge of your salary, it will be
difficult for her to spend it when she’s aware
of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s
in your care, she will keep you asking even
when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the
pain in her body is nothing to be compared to
the wound on her heart and that means you
may be in trouble living with a wounded
woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live
a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will
soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives
and many children because of our large farm-
lands and many harvests, there are hardly any
land for farming anymore, so embrace your
woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did
meet your mother could be your eateries and
restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the
closet thing we did there was to embrace each
other.
10. My son, don’t be carried away when you
start making more money, instead of spending
on those tiny legs that never knew how hard
you worked to get it, spend it on that woman
that stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw little stones or
whistled at the window of your mother father’s
house, to call her out, it was not for sex, it
was because I missed her so much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife
has changed, there could be something you’ve
stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, Asake rode the
bicycle with me before I bought that tortoise
car outside there, any woman that won’t
endure with you in your little beginning
should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any
woman, there are ways she’s enduring you too
and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call
feminism, well, if a woman claim to have
equal right with you in the house, divide all
the bills into two equal parts, take one part
and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I
took more yams to her father, if you don’t
meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what
I didn’t tell you is that our women had
prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to
school because I was foolish like many to
think a female child won’t extend my family
name, please don’t make that mistake, the
kind of female achievers I see nowadays has
made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your mother have once locked up
the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it
because she was angry, I did not raise my
hand to beat her because of a day like this, so
that I can be proud to tell you that I never for
once beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more
of natural beauty, though I wouldn’t lie to you,
some had minor painting of their appellation
mostly on their arms, the ones you people
now call tattoo, but don’t forget that they
didn’t expose any part of their body like your
women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not
interested in what happens in your marriage,
try to handle issues without always coming to
us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s
first sewing machine for her, help your wife
achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing
yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and
your mother, it’s a secret of growing old and
having children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a
tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that
knows everything, everyday.